For the love, it's Valentine's Day, again.
Another year, more money spent on another day. Can you tell this is my all time favorite holiday?
Today we have sent our kids off to school with their valentine cards to pass out, probably with candy attached and their boxes. Yay for rotting teeth later!
So Holly was showing me some boxes on Facebook the other day that some "kids had done." Obviously, the parents did it; the kids might have been able to assist with it, as long as they listened to what they should do. Basically, social media is an outlet for parents to do one another out or wait that's at school too, right?!
I mean really, your kid so didn't make the barn Valentine box that when you open it up, it pulls out to a whole other level?! What happened to letting our children do the work? What happened to school parties actually being parties for the kids?! Why do we feel like we have to make it better?
Now I am not saying I am better than you, by not helping. When in fact, I think that the ones I have seen are amazing and I know took work and time. It was perfection. But again, of all people, I expect way too much out of my seven-year-old. He then in return thinks he has to do things perfectly as well. Shame on me for making him feel that way.
The artist in me is all about making things "better." I can't say I haven't "helped" Dawson out before. However, the more I thought about it all, really what we are saying to our kids, "Your Valentine box isn't good enough, here let me have it, I can make it better for you." That goes for any school project, though.
So as I am sitting here just getting mad about it. I know right, stupid. I am telling Holly about the post I am going to do, and she was like oooh great one! Then she was like what about birthday parties that parents out do, and I said, "Don't even get me started on that."
I bought Dawson some supplies, just some different colored papers actually, some stickers and more glue. I did ask him if he wanted to decorate his box in valentine's stuff, or more like Lego/superhero stuff. He said, Valentine. So that's what I bought. He also wanted me to print some stuff out for him too, so I did that as well. As he is cutting his paper and about to glue, he asks me, "Can I put this here? Does this look good enough." You know what I said, "Baby, this is your Valentine's box and you can decorate it however you want it, it will be great!" I don't want him thinking he has to "keep up with the Jones' " with school projects.
So he did it, he decorated his box. Could it have been better? Nope! Why? Because he did what he wanted to do, and I didn't tell him otherwise. I refrained from saying, "yours isn't good enough, let me make it better." He doesn't need a standard; he needs to be creative and be a kid, not a college age art student.